DiArY oF a MaD bLaCk WoMaN...

One of my all time favorite movies. There is so much truth jammed into this film. But one thing that stuck out to me was when Helen's mother and Madea spoke about forgiveness.

Though Helen was put through so much hell and pain, in the end she forgave her husband. She was dragged out her house, all dignity and self-respect lost. She loved a man who did her wrong. Though she had her few moments of revenge, she was quickly reminded that she needed to forgive her husband not for him but for herself.

The key to forgiveness is humility. When pride gets in the way, forgiveness is but a long distance away. Not saying it can't be reached, but everyday it takes work. Everyday is a new day to forgive. You can't keep having a pity party for yourself. Ooo he did me wrong, he did this and he did that. I was betrayed, I was lied to and cheated on. I can't forgive him or her. I can't forgive all the stuff he or she put me through.

Revenge only feels good for a little while. Though I've thought long and hard about revenging so many who've hurt me in the past, in the end I knew it wouldn't be worth it. What's the point of stooping down to the level of those who hurt you. There isn't any point. You just look as foolish and dumb as they do. So you might as well man up, and just forgive them. It won't be easy, that's a given. We're human. When our feelings get hurt , we want that person to hurt just as much as we did. We want them to feel the pain that we felt 10 times more, and cry those tears we cried 100 times harder. But by forgiving them, we show ourselves approved as the bigger person. The person who doesn't allow things to tear them down, because champions never accept defeat. Champions turn that defeat into a win, by showing a heart of forgiveness. If you had the ability to revenge someone who's done you wrong would you? For me, I'd say no. Because honestly in the end God can deal with that person a whole lot better then I can. In the end I want to say that I forgive you. Everyday I forgive you and myself. In the end I know it's going to be okay. Just Have Faith.